Lilly, go to Jamaica and have a relaxing, fabulous time. You deserve it. Sometimes our families and friends don't understand why we do what we do and why we like what we like and why we love who we love. You know what? Who gives a f$%&k??? Stick with your plans and don't worry about mama. Her issues are just that, hers!!!!

My dad's health is failing and he has become more dependent on my mom within the last year. He doesn't drive much anymore either. He can't be left alone for days at a time anymore because he is very forgetful now. I can't even get my mother to come to Jamaica for a visit because she can't leave my dad and he can't fly. (Sigh)...so it's just beginning for me.......

Thanks, CQ . . . very much for your post. This behavior is nothing new for my Mom, so I should be used to it . . . but I guess I never will be. It was a huge reminder to myself how NOT to treat others.

You're just under the three week mark so focus on that. You have a plan in place for your girls, so focus on you and getting ready for your trip(I know it's easier said than done).

Well . . . bumping this thread because the issues continue . . . and this time, I didn't keep my voice down. Instead, I let my mother know that I would not tolerate her hurting me anymore with words -- that I was over it!!! I should've done this 30 years ago but instead, I enabled her to continue by not speaking up.

I suspect we won't speak now for months . . . I'm good with that.

P.S. This time, it had nothing to do with Corey, LOL.

Good girl.

Be proud of standing up for yourself.

Be prouder still that you have created such a beautiful relationship with your own daughters.

my dad turned 60 (we share the same birthday) this year.... and my moms 48... my dad is healthy as far as we know, besides some old bloodclots in his feet that somehow miraculously loosened and drifted away thru new veins/arteries (or whatever it was) that his foot created after his "accident" - him stepping on a nail and his foot became infected and he NEVER got treated for it. hes so dumb when it comes to seeking medical attention! this really aggravates me and my mom but what can you do? he's stubborn. he also has high blood pressure so if he gets aggravated u can tell hes not doing OK..

me and him used to be really REALLY close growing up but once my teenage years hit, and he grounded me for a year for getting into the wrong crowd (drugs&sex), failing grades and a horrible attitude we drifted apart. but i thank him for this everyday because it literally saved my life! from becoming like the rest of those girls i used to roll with... ANYWAY BACK ON TOPIC...

im always afraid to lose my parents early because his mom died when he was 7 thru stomach cancer..and his dad died when he was 16-17... my moms dad died before 50 from heart disease and her mom died around 50 something from a stroke... she found her in the bathroom...

my mom had a heart attack at age 44..REALLY young!!! we almost lost her but thankfully she thought of herself for once and got to the hospital.. she told my dad to take her there because she was in severe pain. on top of this i had just taken my first trip alone with my girlfriends..and i had only been gone for a day... sometimes i almost feel like that triggered it... me and my mom are super close.. we are identical in almost everyway...

i really do not know what i would do if i lost either one... my whole family is really close, all 6 of us! but if either one of them someday ended up needing 24/7 care i would drop everything and do it all for them.. i dont care what the cost is. my belief is my parents took care of me all thru my life so why not return that favor when they cant do for themselves anymore. i dont really know if my siblings would do the same... but i already spoke to them about this. my dad refuses to have other random people take care of him... he said he would rather us wheel him out to a cliff, close our eyes and just push the chair over it... i would never do this btw but that just was him proving his point.

i wish we could all live forever and stay young...live would be soo great
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-5Yx2TnN9mc

but unfortunately thats not how life works............ so im looking forward to heaven so i can see everyone once im done here.. ok enuff depressive talks..